My mom turned 90 this spring. She has dementia, so a monster birthday party was out of the question. Instead, we threw her nine different birthday parties. One for every decade. Family and friends helped make them happen. We celebrated in smaller groups at people’s homes, on boats, in parks, restaurants and even a late night party in her room. She loved it and laughs every time I tell her she’s had nine parties. I took photos and plan to make a collage of all the festivities. Until then, I show her the pictures over and over and she finds great pleasure in that.